My sweet little client put on a Lifetime movie last night called Bringing Ashley Home. It was the story of Libba Phillips, the founder of Outpost for Hope, and her search for her mentally ill and drug addicted sister. Through her journey Libba has found a faith in God and is helping to change missing person laws, help families find their missing loved ones, and most of all saving the children of the mentally ill, drug addicted, unnoticed, and homeless population. You can read more about the "missing missing" here.
There are so many people who are viewed as not worth saving, I think of my brother....a mentally ill drug addict, he receives services from the state.The city he lives in is filled with resources for him....but I offer nothing. I have nothing to give him and in all honesty, if he disappeared, he would be a nameless body in the morgue until his case manager figured out what had happened to him. I would get a call asking me what to do with his body. I selfishly, feel like I can't take on another sick person. I call and talk to him on the phone. If I can't track him down, I call his case manager and he updates me. I pray for him. But thats it. He's been at it for 30 years.
All I can think to do to feel better is to help in some way. I think feeling better is behind most co-dependents desperate actions. WE want to feel better!
This is a depressing post.....Sorry. I'm posting it anyway, because these are real issues. There was so much I could relate to in the movie last night as far as the privacy walls a family hits. You are shut out at every turn. I think of Linnea Lomax....her family hit the same obstacles and their daughter is gone now. There has to be a way to respect privacy but save those who are truly ill and can't make decisions for themselves.... there just has to be. At least something better than what we are doing now.