Molly has a new boyfriend. That is not the least expected thing in my life.
What took me by surprise, was this young man went to middle school with my girl and they were friends. He hasn't seen my girl in a long long time, but Molly said, "Oh Mom, it was so nice to hear him talk about the girl he remembered before she went down this path."
The feelings that came up totally took me by surprise. He knew her, he remembered her and he saw her back when she was just a young girl, freckles and red hair and braces, and today he is filled with compassion for her. It was really surreal to hear someone else's perspective of that time. Validating. He remembers watching her change during those years and he said if he had it to do over again, if he knew what the future was going to hold for her, he would have pressed in harder, hung on to her, pulled her back if he could. Very sweet thoughts. Very sad thoughts....so much loss and feelings of helplessness and regret even for some kid she hasn't seen in years.
As sweet it is to hear these stories, it is also incredibly sad too.
There were good years though! It hasn't always been this way. It was bittersweet to be reminded of that.
She was so adorable and so so kind and sweet and sensitive and caring. She still is so many of those things...
Speaking of which...we had lunch together yesterday. It was a good day. She is open to returning to treatment, to counseling.....we just have to figure out where and how.
Keep praying please....