Like everyone and everything, we always have the choice to wallow in our stuff or walk through to the other side. I am choosing to feel my sadness and in all truth sadness may be a part of my life for a long time to come. Addiction is sad. So sad. Its tragic in the true sense of the word....but my feet are still moving. My heart will follow at some point.
Can we acknowledge and *feel* our feelings and still be walking through to the other side? Yes, and as a matter of fact, I believe its the only way... to feel it all and move on when we are finished.
I just read something in some Alanon literature...something about "seeing everything that happens *to* me as an opportunity." Nothing is really happening to me. I am just watching the fall out, the battle, the struggle, the shame, the feelings of self loathing....in all of their colorful glory fight to hang on to my girl.
In the background is my voice....."you have a beautiful spirit, God is waiting patiently for you to turn to Him, you are loved."
We each have our journey "through to the other side." They are our private journeys. One is not dependent upon the other. We each travel our own paths, meeting at some points and sharing our experiences, and then moving on to continue our journey. I wish we could travel together more often.....but I think these things that we aim to conquer need to be done alone with our Higher Power by our side.