Sunday, January 6, 2013

New Beginnings....

I am back! lol

New year, new blog, new topics to discuss, new look. I am who I am though, so I don't know that it will be all that much different than my old blog.

I did take my old blog to the printer and am having it printed and bound into a book. That was 5 years of my life! I just couldn't hit delete and have it all be gone. So so much had gone into those blog posts. That blog was my outlet as I figured out lots of dynamics in my own life, including my own personal relationship with God, as I walked with my mom through her leaving this earth, through my kids moving out and then back in again, my weight loss and fitness much of ME was in those pages.

So here I am to begin again...

Today I wasted the majority of a whole day. It was wonderful! I did frivolous things like watched the season opening of Pit-bulls and Parolees that "little one" DVRed for me. Then I went upstairs and checked my email and there was an ad for an episode of Hoarders and it showed this beautiful Victorian house and said something one knows whats behind these walls...or something like that. So I confess, I sat at my desk and watched an entire episode of Hoarders on my laptop! I never watch TV on my laptop. TV is for watching and laptops are for writing and communicating...and never the two shall mix. Until today.

So what I saw was a beautiful masterpiece of architecture on the outside. But when the doors were opened to the inside it was filled with filth and clutter. The overflow into the backyard was like slime oozing out the seams that couldn't be contained any longer.

After it was over I couldn't stop thinking about it was such a perfect picture of so many of our lives. We are each beautiful masterpieces of creation. Each fearfully and wonderfully made. The problem is that we usually don't understand the miracle that we are and the worth that we hold. We work so hard to "look" good. By all appearances everything is perfect...but if we really open the door and look honestly at our insides, we see that we are carrying around so much hurt and fear and baggage and we don't know what to do with it, so we tuck it away, telling ourselves that we will deal with that later. But later never comes, and eventually our souls are brimming over and all of a sudden all of our emotional hoard is becoming harder and harder to keep tucked away. We shove it in and quickly shut the door, but it seeps out under the doorway. We quickly mop it up, block any opening, pull down the shades...we have allowed our beautiful selves to become polluted with the pain of this life. Before too long, its all too much and we have no choice other than to let the flood happen. To watch the wreckage of our life spill forth. To look at each and every molecule of it and acknowledge it and sort through it, and begin to purge ourselves of the stuff we have held on to.

We felt safe with all of our emotional possessions surrounding us, padding us from the world and more hurt. We realize that without us knowing what was happening, we have become frozen in place by all of our emotional possessions. They have taken away our freedom, set us firmly in fear, made us want to hide, not let anyone see what is really our lives and somehow we have stopped being our best selves.

In my experience, this flooding process was the beginning of healing for myself. It was me coming to the end of my own abilities to fix, protect, hide, polish and spruce, and present the picture of perfection. I had to let it all out and look at it all and not deny that it existed or wasn't as bad as I felt like it was. It was the MOTHER of all purging.

Once it was all out though, it was done. I had faced my worst fears, I had let people see *me* as I was and I let the chips fall where they may. From that point on, into today, I only have maintenance "housecleaning" to do. I can keep short accounts, I can catch something right away. If I am dealing with fear I have new tools to manage and face my fears. If it's anger, again I have learned some new ways to handle honest, speak my truth, and accept that others truth may not be the same as mine and THAT IS OK. It doesn't negate what my experience is....or what theirs is.

Unloading all of that extra weight, clearing our walking spaces, brings some order to our lives so we can function freely. Its scary as holy hell in the beginning, but we don't walk alone. Our God walks with us, leading the way, showing us each next step and we can rest in His leadership and His grace and love. We begin to see that we are a blessed people for the process is giving us our life back.

Bless y'all...


ruby-tuesday said...

I can relate to this a lot Annette
I'm trying to recover from anorexia/bulimia and also drug addiction
I wear many masks on the outside
Happy, fun, confident, outgoing, well
But sometimes I feel like I am dying inside, crumbling, falling apart
But I don't want to worry my family so I keep up my act
Although anyone who knows me well can see through the thin veil of my act

I hope and pray that 2013 brings peace and happiness and joy
I want to move forward and progress
Not go back to the way I was

I wish you every happiness for the coming year

Take care x

Syd said...

So glad that you are back. I think that the new look is cool.
It is nice to not hoard feelings (or other things). I have pretty much been an open book with people but even more so now that I am in Al-Anon. I realize that not everyone in the world needs to know everything. So I reserve the right to hold back some. All things in balance.
Thanks for your comments on my MIL. It appears that Hospice in the home is the best idea. The doctors in Palliative Care are going to meet today to discuss this.

SoberMomRocks said...

Love the new look, love the new blog, love the new pic...just plain love you!

Can't wait to follow this journey of words...wherever it leads.


Sheri said...

I'm so glad you are back! Loved the post! I'm still somewhat emotionally hoarding but the clutter is diminishing day by day! I feel I owe some of it to the wonderful insights I glean from my blogger friends!

bugerlugs63 said...

O I'm just so glad to see you're still blogging! So Glad.
We'll cope with whatever comes our way this year. I'm looking forward to positive changes for us all.
Much love to you Annette x x

Pammie said...

ahhhhhhh. Found you. Whew!
Lovin' the purple!
Your picture looks FANTASTIC!

Tori said...

I love the new look! :)

Anonymous said...

Dear Annette,
I am thrilled that u have decided to return to writing a blog. I found your pevious blog over a year ago and have been reading ever since. You have no idea how you have inspired me and have helped me to be a better person. Thank u from the bottom of my heart. Keep writing and I'll keep reading.
God Bless.

Signe said...

I love your prayer choices on the right. This all looks (and sounds) so great!

Anonymous said...

Yay! You're back! I was going down my blog list thinking, who is this? Glad I clicked on it :)