Well this explains everything!! ;o)
My hubby sent me this article from CNN and they try to guess why especially smart kids would be more inclined to use drugs...the closest they come in my very unprofessional opinion is that the kids feel different. In my experience what I have seen is that really smart people are also sometimes really sensitive people...this world and breaking into it to become a successful adult, is a daunting prospect. I think feeling different, not being able to cope with people who are indifferent when you are feeling everything so deeply, is tough. So they numb themselves.
I know we all think our kids are brilliant and beautiful and talented....but mine really are! lol
Seriously though H was a straight A student, an award winning athlete, popular with her peers.....but she wasn't comfortable in any of those roles. As a young child I can remember her not feeling comfortable in her own skin.
To this day she is excellent at looking at a situation and finding a very real solution. Mechanically minded, able to fix things that I throw my hands up at and say, "lets buy a new one!" We had a car in the family for years that the cigarette lighter didn't work. For us non-smokers that meant we couldn't use our car chargers to charge our cell phones....we gave that car to H and within the first week she had fixed the lighter.
Maybe, just maybe, all of our beautiful, amazing, addicted kids...are all geniuses in hiding, for whatever thats worth.
Annette
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LOL, I agree, yours really are but that cracked me up when you said it, I wasn't expecting it.
I saw this article too and had similar thoughts. I think what you said is so true, they do feel different and they FEEL so much more. Also, the opposite could be true. My boy struggled to get C's with his learning issues and was bullied until he grew six inches one summer, and has had anxiety and depression most of his life. BUT - he is very intelligent and when tested on those Standard tests always was OFF THE CHARTS in most subjects. Sigh. We'll never know the whys, but its always helpful to get some clues as to the maybes.
Annette, I have read articles on this and my daughter's therapists along the way have also made statements like this. Your daughter sounds a lot like mine. They are over-thinking, sensitive people who don't feel good enough, when they're already more than enough. It makes my heart ache.
oh Annette...you are so right....they are sensitive,and that's certainly a predisposition to addiction(IMO). I remember one thing my son said,...so distinctly,..."I always felt different from other people" :(
...and he was always smart too,...not brilliant, but quite smart/bright. Before he got into drugs, at the end of his freshman year in high school, he had a 3.7 GPA,..hard to believe he barely graduated. But that's true...it was very close !
What you are saying is very true.
It is a well-known fact that the higher your intelligence the greater the tendency toward depression. The theory being that the more intelligent see more about the futile nature of life and get depressed.
Great observation about the sensitivity. Only about 20% of the population is highly sensitive. I'm not sure what percentage are highly intelligent. Interesting question.
You make some very good point.
My son never had to study. School came so easy for him.
Somewhere along the line he lost his motivation, his intrinsic motivation. I think that is what let the addiction virus in!
I couldn't see it then but now I look back at his pictures in H.S. and there is the emptiness in his eyes, as if his soul was removed.
Continued prayers.
I agree that many are sensitive and feel a lot. It is also possible that ADD and other issues such as depression and bi-polar are part of it. I am not an alcoholic but have always felt deeply and had a very high IQ. I think that some studies oversimplify that alcoholism is a complex disease as is drug addiction. No one thing is going to be the cause IMO.
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